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We have reached the point where we often try to find our completeness in something which is not ours. We try to find ourselves in something and relive our happy moments considering that we got complete and content once again. But we forget that there will come a time when the thing in which we have found our completeness will leave us. And the day comes after sometime. That's when depression meets us and we fall prey to it. Many lose their identity, many lose their family while many lose their lives in something we call Depression and Loneliness. We just stop identifying ourselves with what we actually are. Because we considered something else as our identity as we felt it completed us as a person or it completed the lost happiness which we were searching from months, years, decades ....
I know an aunty who loved gardening a lot. But because she shifted in city after marriage, she was unable to carry on with her hobby because of lack of gardening space. Finally, she was shifted to a bungalow as her husband got promotion. She got a backyard where she planted a sapling after many decades. After that little plant turned into a tree after many years, a devastating monsoon uprooted the tree. When she woke up the next morning and saw that the tree is no more in its place but washed away, she met with heart attack. It has been 5-7 years since she has been discharged but she has still not learnt smiling and prefers living alone. This happened because she found her completeness in that tree she nourished for years and after she lost it, she couldn't feel herself alive anymore.
The same happens with people who love their job a lot and turn workaholic with time. They give all their sweat and blood to their office tasks and work for 18-19 hours incessantly without feeling tired. Suddenly, one day they are thrown out of the organization and they never get back to their normal self and end up becoming a drunkard or psychotic. Same is the case with the students who die to score perfect marks and always score 1st rank in class. The moment they see imperfectness in their result, they go recluse and after sometime, they become so dumb that they couldn't even pass in easy subjects like Environmental Science.
Now just imagine if Sachin Tendulkar had also considered Cricket as something which makes him complete. What would have been his state after retirement? He would have lost his great personality which we often give as an example to any person who starts showing arrogance after little success. Rajesh Khanna is a great example who thought his stardom completes him on this planet. The moment it was taken away by Amitabh Bachchan, we know in what state Rajesh Khanna went in and how alone he was when he expired.
We, the human beings, also have the propensity of considering another human being a reason of our completeness. We see our life a possibility only if they are with us. We become possessive of such human being who we feel are completing our life. And one day the person leaves us either intentionally or unintentionally. We cry and cry and cry. We become weak. We become a personality whom this society hates like anything. We don't even like anyone's sympathy. We just pray and pray and pray that the person returns back to us. We stop living our passion, job, education, family etc. because of a particular person who is no more with us and is never going to be.
This post is just a reminder that only you can complete yourself. If you do not know how to keep yourself interested, motivated, lively and the best of yourself, you have already lost the plot. Remember, nothing else can ever complete you. Sachin Tendulkar is a great example of the same. After leaving Cricket, he has started working as a philanthropist for most of his days. He doesn't crave to play Cricket again for his nation. Nor do he feels bad when his records get broken by new talented players. Because he didn't see his completeness in Cricket. He saw his completeness in himself who can do anything to keep himself motivated and the best version of himself. That is why detachment is a great word which you should always keep with yourself whenever you feel that you are being controlled by some external force. Be the controller of your mind rather than getting controlled by your mind. That's the only way of not attaching someone/something to yourself so tightly that you start feeling COMPLETE because of their presence. You are that DIVINE FORCE who can do the impossibles in a flick of seconds. Don't lose the POWER by giving it to someone/something else. ONLY YOU CAN COMPLETE YOURSELF!!!