Tuesday, 18 November 2014 | By: AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

I don't want my CHILDHOOD back!!!

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        Recently, we celebrated Children's Day. Politically, it has been made a war between who owns Chaha Nehru but I am not interested either in Nehru or which party deserves him more. I was thinking only about children and cute little kids who bring smile on our faces every now and then through their gestures and playful nature. They laugh, cry, sleep, walk, wake, talk, jump, falls- all at the same time and that's the fun and chill they provide us. Seeing children and reading about how some people miss their childhood, I was thinking if I need my childhood back. Then I thought about the range of age in which a human being is considered to be a child. I did not get any perfect answer. 

           People say that we will miss our teenage a lot as soon as they cut their 20th birthday cake. How is it possible that you have grown enough mature just in a day that now you consider yourself a mature person to hold responsibilities than to be the one who tried almost everything he shouldn't have? We shouldn't be so reactive about how our personality would seem if we remain to be the same playful or immature person we were till now. I have seen few people in their 25th year smoking, drinking, riding bikes at 120 km/hr, having night-out with the same excitement and even having sex as if they have received Oscar for lifetime achievement. For them, the teenage is still on. There's no range of age for them. You must have heard people saying that certain elder uncle is still a child and therefore if he's not at party, party is not a fun anymore. If carrying the childhood till the last breathe would have been so foolish, the uncle wouldn't have been missed at the parties. Right?

          But considering my childhood, I feel good that it has been left behind. There used to be so much competition in the colonies that aunties would never let us roam on roads if we didn't score a decent marks or scored more than the average of my classmates living in that society. Our parents themselves were so passionate about our marks that for them, our life was nothing than a marks-scoring machine. That was a scary phase of my life because studies never excited me something as a full-time. I also needed a fun-time which my parents mostly neglected to grant me. That was painful and something that used to fill anguish in me. 

          I was very dumb kind of a child or you can say, introvert basically when I just entered my school. The nature remained the same until I completed my 5th std. I was very boring and therefore my friends never took me in their teams whenever we played Cricket, Kabaddi or any game. No one partnered me whenever there were games in our club. It was quite a humiliation daily. I used to plead at home to send me out for playing. But when I was sent, there was no one who was interested in playing with me. Suddenly, I realized and found myself in loneliness. I observed that I had great sense of humour whenever I talked with myself about anything. I just needed guts to crack the same jokes in public so that the boys of my age group shall realize my importance too. That worked. I became a talking topic in the colony.

         With this new found attention of my friends and everyone around me, I left everything behind including studies and all my time started getting invested in creating jokes and cracking them. Even when I used to sit on my study table in the evening, I used to think about how I have to make my friends laugh next morning in the school bus. I used to create funny shayaris, non-veg songs etc. This took me down from 97% to 89% to 80% to 75% to 67% to 60.80% in SSC examination. I was shocked and realized how I had wasted everything I had as the power of having a genius brain. As a child, I didn't get my priority right as the toppers of my class used to plan. I was always known as brilliant child even when I was going down day by day because of the initial respect and rapport I had built with my extra-ordinary percentages. Therefore, I never felt that I should get on the right track again. Because of wrong influences, I grew a new tendency that I would show the world that greatness can be achieved even without studying and having great knowledge. Huh!

          Also in my childhood, I felt myself very lonely because of being a single-child. With time, I saw my parents distancing from me. My father worked for 70-80 hours at a stretch and didn't have good time to spend with me. My mother was herself a working lady hence she would be busy meeting her deadlines and maintaining public relationship for the growth of her business. I found myself alone at home almost every time. Even when my parents were home, because of sheer pressure of society on a child's result, they would lock the door of bedroom to make me sit inside and study. Sometimes, I wanted to talk with them but because I was also beaten twice a week at an average, I never had the confidence of speaking my mind to my parents. This took away all the emotions from me which has somewhere affected my personality till today. 

          Now, I can say "I love you, papa" seeing into his eyes without any shyness. Now I can tell my mother how I am feeling about my life and future etc. I talk with my parents at stretch today. They are my friends now. They discuss everything with me even if it's about money. I missed the same involvement and companionship from them in my childhood. I always thought that considering I don't have any sibling, they should love me a bit more than they believe they should but Alas, I was alone. Yes, I was! Hence, I totally hate my childhood. It was divided in two parts. Initial years in begging everyone to accept me, associate with me and feel my existence and latter years in ruining my potentials because I got the most awaited attention from the same people who never looked at me in primary school. For me, Children's day is less about fun but more about the scary days that still haunts me. I don't want my childhood back like you. :-) 



Hum Saath Saath Hain!!! Okay, sorry!!!

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      A group is formed when certain people meet together and find commonalities between them. They start sharing their previous experiences. With it, they also start planning how they are going to enjoy certain moments together. Memories keep getting added and the love happens. A group is formation of pure love is what I personally feel. If there is no love from either of the two sides or many sides that a group has, the relationship in the group does not sustain for a long time. It is said that every relation comes with an expiry date and it is 99.99% true and I totally believe in it. Therefore even if I am in love with someone and I know that I see my life with her, I am always prepared for that moment when I'll realize the separation is near. it pains less. It hurts less. Don't expect and you are always on the right and happy path. Expect and you will find hurdles all along your life till the end. 

          A group should understand that in success of each other is the ultimate success of the group. If we start pulling each other down by passing comments, hurling taunts and underestimating the potentials, we are weakening our own resources. In childhood, it used to be fun. My friend knew badminton hence he taught me that. I knew little bit about books so I helped them with that. Another was expert in abusing hence he ruined us all. Haha! That is how a group used to work. By empowering each other. But does the same love, determination, purity, positivism and "WE" attitude stays in the competitive world today? Definitely NOT! 

         When I came to Mumbai and I saw certain groups of boys and girls roaming and hanging out together, I used to feel that even I need such a group even if it comprises only boys. But I need one. I used to watch movies alone in multiplexes and I missed a big group around me. Finally, I got one in BCA and once all of us got separated because of getting admitted in different colleges, I got a new one in MCA after almost an academic year. I have always been very proud of my group and I want everyone to succeed in their own way. I never feel that I should be the only achiever so that the grooup keeps on talking about me. I should be the only hot trending topic in group each and every time. No! I want everyone to have that moment so that a group remains to be a group. It's not necessary to have a leader but at any point of time, you need anyone who excels in something that the group is talking about currently. 

         But there is no stoppage to the ego issues that comes in the way. If I say something, someone would be there to tell why he shouldn't worry about future because he knows he is exceptional. Similarly if someone tries telling that no one in group is secured, I shouldn't jump and say,"hey, didn't you see I have a great back-up in the form of my parent's savings?" No. This is just not acceptable. People start competing within the group and then starts a phase where everyone wants to push and kick each other behind to cross the winning mark alone by a hefty margin. But is that how one can win? Never. A group's support is always essential. Either Virat Kohli's century or Rohit Sharma's double-century, there is always a big team behind which claps passionately without any competitive and egoistic attitude hidden. 

            I have seen groups getting formed, broken and even if they continue to be together, it's out of formality or peer pressure that because everyone's group is still intact, we shouldn't stay in college alone without our group. My BCA group separated because one was too egoistic and stubborn to hear anyone else. Another wanted to follow his own set of weird values and proceedings even when in a group. Another wanted to fight and shout at anyone for any kind of silly reason. And I wanted everyone to say YES to the things I liked because I felt I am always right. The group never met again as a group after BCA ended. Similarly, the MCA group is almost done with each other. If this would have been Bigg Boss House, I would have already become a Gautam Gulati whom everyone would have hated for considering himself as hero and ever right. 

           Anyways, my point is:- A group should never feel competitive among themselves. There should be an attitude among friends that anyone winning among us will be my own success. In someone's success, one should see himself achieving a landmark. One shouldn't be too self-centered or over-confident about himself while planning and debating. If one finds that another is weak in this zone, he should forward his helping hands before the person asks for the help. After helping, one shouldn't repeat it again and again or ask anything in return for it. Because then that would be barter system or retailing. Helping is always selfless and one-sided. One shouldn't consider others weak because you might be Zero in what someone else might turn out to be Hero tomorrow. When argument becomes serious sometimes without any personal issues, one should have that courtesy and consciousness alive to go and sort it out later. That's what I feel how group of friends can stay together forever if few things are kept in mind and ego issues does not come in between.


Friday, 14 November 2014 | By: AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

An Interview with author, Vikas Singal!!!

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     As I wrote few days back in one of my reviews that I read an e-book for the first time. It was "And... They Fell in Love" by Vikas Singal. Fortunately, I got an opportunity to interview him and ask few questions I had in mind. It's all here for everyone of you to read and hear what the author has to say about his e-book and future plans.

1. Hello Vikas! We would like to know something about your childhood and background before knowing about how you turned into an author. 

Well, I am brought up in a small town Sri Ganganagar in Rajasthan. I have spent my childhood as one of the most adored child of my family. My parents are quite traditional but they have installed some really good self belief in me. And that have helped me a lot.

2. What triggered you that you suddenly thought of writing these stories and releasing them for all the readers?

It was just another day of my simple life when something happened. I wanted to remember it for life time, so I wrote that incident in a short story format. One of my roommate read it and found it fabulous. That’s how it all started.

3. How did the idea of publishing only the e-Book version of And… They Fell in Love come into your mind? Why didn’t you go for paperback version?

To be honest, I contacted few publishers but the material was not long enough. And the cost of paper version was coming way too high. So I just keep it as an E-Book for now.

4. What exactly did you want to convey through the three stories that you have sincerely written in this book?

If I talk to the point, my answer would be “ Love still exists and few couple are really made for each other”.

5. Are you planning to write any full-fledged novel? Or longer forms of short stories?

Yes, it’s in pipeline. 

6. Why don’t you participate in various Anthology competitions if you are interested in writing Short stories? They can give you better exposure. 

Yes, soon you would see me in one of those anthologies! I am game for it.

7. By when are you publishing your next work? Any idea on what it would be based upon?

I am working on my second book but I am not position to say a definite time line for it. Yes, it would be based on relationships.

8. If you win a major award for your stories, what would you say in the speech? 

Hard one!! I have to prepare it first. But it would end something like this:

Honesty still is the best policy.
Hard work still pays. 
And the Good Guy still gets the best Girl!