Friday, 27 November 2015 | By: AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

My Parent's togetherness: 27 YEARS and still counting.... Haha!!!

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   This week my parents celebrated their 27th marriage anniversary and I just couldn’t lose the opportunity of talking about them. If my life is worthy of keeping anyone with it till its last breathe, it’s none other than these 2 people who have done almost everything possible for them to do for me. Now, as I have myself started earning, I can see how difficult it becomes to save for our old age plus spend in few unavoidable expenditures like bills, railway pass etc and over that, fulfil the basic requirement of myself. I still do not have a family and I can see moon in noon when it comes to saving money. I am saving but the whole budgeting things become too harsh for me to even think of marrying and settling down. And over this, my mother and father lived almost 80% of their married life in a very small salary but still managed to do almost everything that a lower middle class family always dreams about. They, with their struggles, have managed to bring our whole family at a level where I can undoubtedly say that we are leading a lifestyle of a higher middle class family but still with many restrictions. We are still not allowed to do many things because we know that the way we have built everything will crash in a blink. 

              Some 6 years ago when I had realized what really my parents had done for me all their lives, I had decided that whatever would be possible from my side, I would do it for them and give them that part of luxury which they had only experienced in homes of other richer friends. I have managed to do quite many of them but I have many more dreams for them. I am not trying to return them everything back what they did for me because that’s practically impossible to do. They had decided to keep their heart away from their body the day they had decided to have a baby. And because I am that isolated part of their body which is actually the reason of their life now, I feel that I should do everything first for them and then for myself. Yes, I know I become rebellious when it comes about few decisions but basically, for the reasons that really matters, I am always obedient to whatever they say. 

               My parents are over-protective of me which often makes me angry but when I think in silence, I feel that I must have done the same with them in some other particular situation. I know whenever in life I shall hurt them by taking any decision, I am going to face lot of calamities because of going with that particular decision. Therefore, often, I move back after walking a small distance on the path that they had asked me not to take because I know it would have something dangerous and risky ahead. My parents can never stop me for something which is really qualitative and life-appreciating but they will fight with me and even become my enemies to stop me taking the path which will cause even a small amount of pain to me sometimes in future. I do not know how they do this being so selfless but if they can do this, I can definitely ask for their advice before taking any decision.

                   I do not know how few children love arguing, fighting and proving their parents wrong every day. Even for a small thing said by their parents make them enough rebellious to humiliate their parents in front of the outsiders sometimes. And they feel proud of this. They feel its appreciating to display in public how they dominate their parents and aren’t a doodh peeta hua bachcha or Mamma’s boy. They do not know that they only get abuses after they leave the room from the people who experience it happening. My parents have fulfilled all my major dreams and I have taken an oath that whatever my parents feel is beneficial for them to feel that they have lived life full of contentment and there’s nothing that’s still left in the To-Do List of their life, I am not going to give up until each one of them is fulfilled and tick marked.  

             I thank my parents on their 27th marriage anniversary for providing me an easy life as compared to few friends of mine who are living to fulfil their family’s basic necessities rather than executing luxuries of life. My parents had planned their life wonderfully and I am going to plan mine similarly so that I can give my family and my children the same pleasing life as I am enjoying currently. May god bless them and I hope they keep complimenting each other so beautifully and improvise the quality of their lives and living. My best wishes are with them and I wish I am always near them before taking any big decision of my life. I hope Sai Baba is considering this request. :-)



Thursday, 26 November 2015 | By: AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

26/11: 7 Years and we are safer than before!

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       26/11 is the day that most Mumbaikars can never forget. It affected everyone in India but the citizens who have themselves experienced something so brutal still get goosebumps when they start talking about their experience of that day. I was in Nashik during the terrorist attack but by the time one year passed, I was already a 6-months old citizen of Mumbai and I could feel the emotions that each person particularly in that area could feel. In May, 2009, I went to Lamington Road and after doing my work asked a taxi driver to just show me few areas around and finally drop me at CST station. As soon as he started, he asked me if I was in Mumbai during the attacks and I told him that I had shifted just 4 weeks back. He then offered to show me the areas where the attacks had happened.   

             In the next 45 minutes, the way he was narrating the incident made me actually understand what the people who cross those locations every day feels about it. I understood the angst of the people whenever they heard the name "Kasab" and over that how luxuriously he was been treated by our Government. The taxi driver told me how he had crossed one of the locations where firing had happened just 15 minutes ago and felt horrifyingly bad about the people who lost their lives. 

             After couple of years, another blast took place at three different locations in Mumbai out of which one was Dadar station. The very next day my parents were getting back and their halting point was Dadar. The moment I realized this, I was unable to control myself and got so scared that I remember I shivered for 15 minutes just imagining what if such incident had happened when such closest people to me would have been at that particular place. It was the first time when I felt closest to an attack and actually feel the adverse effects of it.

                 It has been 7 years since 26/11 and I can convincingly say that I don't feel that insecure anymore. Now I find Mumbai's security far better than the time I had relocated to this great city of dreams. I can find policemen continuously strolling and even checking bags of people on railway stations whenever they find something suspicious. Many boys are been caught regularly smuggling turtles because of this security check. Many criminals are been caught regularly. Even the attacks haven't taken place as often as it used to take before 26/11. I am not saying that the city isn't prone to attacks. It is. But because the security is so tight and police is doing a fine job, we are actually assured that it's not that easy to look at Mumbai with a wicked smile now. 

              Also Kasab is hanged till death now and this is the most that the victims and their closer ones can get as justice because no one can bring back the same cheerful lives for them. It is been destroyed by those 3 days when few evils attacked our beautiful city and tried to tell us how weak we are. They challenged us and their masterminds celebrated their success sitting in a neighboring country. Almost all of them are caught except few. Though, we, Mumbaikars, have MOVE ON attitude but that's because there's no other options as we have to earn our bread and butter from the next day itself but it does cause fear in everyone's heart. These terrorists have become heartless hence it isn't explanatory to them in any language but we can only hope that our security forces become enough stronger to combat such challenges as quickly as possible. Paris Attack did bring back the fear of 26/11 but we hope that we do not get to hear about any such attack ever again. 

            My prayers for souls who lost their lives and I wish that their family members stay strong and inspired. May God Bless Everyone Who Is Innocent And Punish Everyone Who Is Trying To Trouble The Innocent. 



Review: Man's World: Predictable, Repetitive, Boring!

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        I watched Y Films' Man's World series the other day. It comprises of only 4 episodes and tries to speak something that's related to the current scenario in India. Men have an ego problem of always considering themselves superior than women. Inspired by this theme, the makers based the series on the same. The protagonist, after getting frustrated by the partiality against him in corporate firm, prays that God turns the whole world other way around where he can be treated like women and given promotions and hikes before anyone else. God listens to him and next day when he wakes up, he sees men doing women's job and vice versa. And the real game starts from here.  

             Initially, the series looks interesting as you hope of something great to be showcased later on because of the kind of plot chosen but unfortunately, I would have to say that there's nothing new in the concept. It's exactly based on what we keep talking, reading and listening on daily basis. You can yourself predict about what's coming in the next scene itself. I believe that even if the makers lifted the ideas on what is being talked by general public every day, there was many more elements which could have been easily inserted in the series resulting it to be more dimensional than it is. 

               And the series does not give any serious thought. They are just proving that men shouldn't consider women weaker and inferior as their job is equally challenging but it's done so tastelessly that you just wish this is the last season of the series. It's nice to see many Bollywood and known personality contributing in the series with their small roles and encouraging a small gesture by the makers so aggressively. But unfortunately, the message doesn't come across as effectively as it should have. Few scenes are truly comedy but overall, it's a series that can be easily skipped.