Thursday, 22 September 2011 | By: AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

When Child Cheats Parent !!!

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        I'm taking a break from writing anything related to creativity because that results in Writer's Block for me. Every time I attempt two fiction blog in a row, I end up being away from Blog for 3-4 days. But today, I would like to talk about something which is very serious. This post is for teenagers and boys/girls from colleges. Yes, for all of you who are of my age group. Every time I hear a motivational speech or self-improvement speech from someone who is of my age, I feel like abusing him and cease him than listening for some more minutes. I always feel that who is he to teach me when he has lived exactly the same number of years I have. You may feel the same for me after this post but I don't know why I want to speak about this and I'll do it tonight. Let you abuse me. 

             Some of my friends often ask me- 
     How is it possible that you never smoked? 
     How is it possible that you never tasted beer or alcohol?
     How is it possible that you are still a virgin? 
     How is it possible that you don't have a girlfriend even after having a successful blog which is loved by everyone? 
     How is it possible that you never went for a trip with friends to somewhere far away from home? 
     
             These are just 5 questions picked up randomly from the bunch of many such questions where people try to show me that I have done nothing in life if I haven't done all this. Is it important to smoke just because I am 20+ and its the time to get intimate with all such fake pleasures of life? Is it so indispensable to taste alcohol and prove that Yes, I'm an adult and I am responsible enough to tour all over my country without anyone's support or care? Is it necessary to hang-out with a girl and sleep with her to prove that I'm enough masculine and macho? Is it necessary to be committed just because girls get easily attracted towards me because of my writing skills? And is it really worthy to go for a trip with friends somewhere very far like Goa or Ooty or Dehradun just to show the people in my society how cool I am? I seriously don't feel that I need to prove anything by doing all this.

             All the questions asked by these friends starts with "How is it possible?" It is possible my friend if you see the face of your parents once before doing any of these activities. My father is not a Ambani or Tata who has uncountable money coming at home and there's no misery in the house. I have a middle-class father who spends a lot to educate me and make me a gentleman who can afford his necessity and lifestyle after I start living on my income. Who am I to waste my father's money to experience the fun of smoking cigarettes and sipping alcohols in Air-conditioned bars? Who am I to spend my father's money on my girlfriend when he is already taking loans for providing me with other luxuries? Who am I to run in shorts on Goa beach when my parent would be sitting at home and managing the budget for next month as I asked for Goa surprisingly and they couldn't say No to my excitement? I am nobody to use my parents just because I am their child and hence, their weakness.

              I have observed a classmate and friend of mine who smoke at least 10 cigarette a day i.e. spend 50 rs on it. After every cigarette, he needs a chocolate or a toffee as Mouth Freshener i.e. 10 rs. He doesn't bring lunch from home so count that as 30 rs a day. So, counting this money as their basic extra expenses of everyday, it reaches to 100 rs approx i.e 3000 rs(minimum)/month. I don't understand why don't they think about their home. Just imagine if they take this amount from their parent and save it, return it to them after the month ends, how happy will they feel that their child didn't spent their money and gave it back to them. And even after spending these bucks, they aren't sincere towards studies or life. All such kind of friends are in defaulters. None of them are going to be allowed for sitting exam. They have already missed their last semester's exam. They have already paid extra fees for clearing those exam papers. Again, waste of father's money. 

               Every day, my mom gets up at 8 o clock to make my lunch for college. She gives me breakfast and send me to college. After I return back, she asks,"Beta, Rasna ya Milk?" After that she comes with breakfast. Why? Because my child has studied for 7 hours today at college so lets treat him nice at home so that he doesn't feel pressurized or frustrated. The day I bunk the college and return home and my mother asks,"Beta, Rasna ya Milk?" I feel so ashamed of uttering my choice. This has made me to attend more than 75% attendance and be out of defaulters. This has pushed me to spend sleepless night during exams to pass all the papers and bring no KTs. This has made me bring a satisfied result so that my parent can smile that their effort is seen in my result. College has allotted us 25% lectures to enjoy. They have given us a liberty to bunk the lecture and enjoy our college life. But who are you to decide the fate of other 75% which is meant to attend the lectures for qualifying the next level where you will be handed Hall-tickets to sit in exam? 

              And coming back to those questions- 
     "How is it possible that you never smoked? 
     How is it possible that you never tasted beer or alcohol?
     How is it possible that you are still a virgin? 
     How is it possible that you don't have a girlfriend even after having a successful blog which is loved by everyone? 
     How is it possible that you never went for a trip with friends to somewhere far away from home?"

          Everything is possible, man. But it is when I'll earn. I'll smoke once and will see what pleasure you got in doing this by wasting your father's money when you were meant to utilize that money for building your future. I'll drink once to see what kind of heaven is seen after getting obsessed in drugs. I'll get a girl for myself and I'll see what's the fun of recharging my card for 50 rs daily and talking to her. I would love to know how soothing a girl's voice is on phone. I'll even go for the trip with my money so that my parents will smile at home thinking that their child is so successful today that he managed to visit all places which they never did in their life. That will be an achievement for my parents. But today, I have no interest in doing any of these things because I don't want to invest my parent's money in all those things which aren't going to add any knowledge in my mind, any investment in my future, any pleasure in my life and any fruitfulness in my home.  

            The only thing I want from my parent's money is good education. I'll spend their money in MCA after my BCA will end. I am going to spend their money in MCA Entrance test preparation coaching class from next month. I am going to spend their money in Writing course which is the most ambitious thing I want to do in my life. I will spend my parent's money in doing some valuable course after MCA. I will spend my parent's money on subscription of all my favourite magazines,books and novels. This will bring prosperity and growth in my home after few years. 10 years from now, my parents will smile and that will make my life successful. But think what cigarettes, alcohol, girls, mobile phones and bunking going to give your parents after 10 years from now. Just think it tonight and tell me tomorrow so that if I am wrong, I can post another blog apologizing for stating a wrong point of view on this topic. 


            This is all for now. Sorry for the lecture (if it was).


        Thanks.


ABHILASH RUHELA - VEERU

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Harman said...

Good boy Abhilash..
good family values..
dats wht it shows up...
never get under peer pressure.. get your parents blessings they will take you far..in every way!

ViJ@Y said...

Nice thoughts
super liked
:)

Mishi said...

awww mashALLH your Parents are lucky to have you...and you are lucky to have such a family...just keep on walking on the same lines and you will be somebody that they all be proud one day INSHAALLAH:-)

Megha said...

superb post abhilash!!!

Anju said...

nice.. but its really suspicious dat u never do dis or u r dat gud son... u seems different in ur blogs and different in ur tweets..(as u use so bad words)...which parents never like...(dont take it otherwise)..as a thought its really admirable and youth shud remember dis...:)

Yusuf Dawawala said...

Very well written may the person whom u r addressing should get the idea and start thinking on it.

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Thanks Harman mam. Thanks for the compliment and advise.

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Oh wow. Thank u Vijay sir.

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Mishi. such strong words for me. i m blessed. Thanks a lot for using these words for me on my blog. May Allah bless u.

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Thanks Megha

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Thanks Anju. Did I say anything in my blog related to not abusing in public? I only talk of things I don't do. If Im not doing it then and then only will people follow me otherwise they will first question me. But I don't speak what I'm not. I will never post a blog saying that abusing in public forum is bad bcoz I myself do it. So, plz dont judge me by the abuses I tweet. Even im young and even i live in people, so its common of using slang words while talking to someone. So plz dont take it in other way.

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

I hope he does..

Anju said...

Abhilash,i m not taking it other ways bt just d way u used to tweet...as u have a potential to make people read u,so u shud keep care of it (a little)... it is very embarrassing... as u do uncommon things thatswhy i tell u...otherwise u r youngg and u live in people..so as u Wish..

Anju said...

And ofcourse,I m preety clean & I have brain...

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Hmm.. Thanks Anju. byt hte way whats your Twitter ID?

Salman J said...

Hey Bro ! Nice One ! All Agreed !! U dont need to do things just because other people think that's cool ! every1 of us has a different perspective of life and we should do what we believe to be right !
as for d smokoin,drinkin,sex,travelling part.. its gonna happen someday or the other (Avoid Drinking Alcohol -- Smokin's safer :D ) so no use fretting over it..
but the best thing that i liked is that part where u said u will enjoy alll that but on ur own terms and ur own money !! Way to go !

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Thanks buddy.. :-) And lolz for some parts of your comment. hahaha

hens night said...

Well posted blog.thanks for sharing this nice information.it is really great post.thanks for this nice information..

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

I hope it will change u even if u r perfect.

nikhimenon said...

quite true.....
btw here s my first try at love stories....
hav a look..
http://nikhimenon.blogspot.com/2011/09/love-you-j-my-love-story-chapter-1.html

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Oh wow. Let me check it sir.

Rachit Aggarwal said...

Great thoughts. You parents are blesses to have a son like you. This post is motivating but it also made me bit uncomfortable and guilty. I hope you can guess why.

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Hahaha... Rachit, I hope it will change you soon. :-)

vaneeta bimra said...

IT WAS DEFINITELY NOT A LECTURE BUDDY...GREAT THOUGHTS...UA PARENTS ARE LUCKY TO HAVE A SON LIKE YOU...

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Actually,

I don't know why people think so great of me after reading this. I think this is basic. Everyone should think in the same way. Anything except this is a sign of abnormality in the person. Right, Vaneeta?

Anonymous said...

I totally agree with you. Even I faced a similar situation in life, My friends mocked at me for not spending my money on those frivolous things.It's very difficult to not bow down to peer pressure.It's lot more important to me that my parent's hard earned money doesn't go down the drain.

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Nice anonymous. Great thinking.

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