Thursday, 22 March 2012 | By: AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

Tum Ho Toh, Gaata Hai Dil.. Tum Nahii.. Toh Kya Hai Yahaan !!!

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       I hope all of you remember one of those epic scenes of 3 Idiots when all the 3 male leads are drunk and they make fun of each other. Sharman is being made fun of the number of rings he wears in almost all the fingers. And then, after all those college dramas, when he was about to enter the placement cell, he throws all those rings in dustbin and then goes for the interview and gets selected. After that, he and Madhavan sees Aamir Khan with tears in their eyes because the way Aamir Khan moves the fear away from Sharman's heart was amazing. I am also one of those Sharman-kind-of-guys who wear number of gems and stones in my rings. I have 7 rings in my hands. Everyone who meets me does this question either sooner or later that why am I so superstitious that rings can do miracle to me. Rings just give me a motivation that I have a luck factor with me. 


            There was a time in my life when everything I touched, turned into stones. Everything I attempted, failed. I was too depressed and too demotivated to try anything new. My parents were as worried as Vijay Mallya would be for his Airlines now-a-days. My mother used to cry in front of her friends to suggest something to her so that her much potential son can do something in life. Once, an aunty who knew a gemologist suggested my mother to take me to meet him. I went and met him. I wasn't too interested in meeting him. But, I thought, I am already torturing my parents to a very good extent, there is no complexity in showing my palms to this gemologist. He told almost everything as an adversity in my life. According to him, neither my studies were successful, neither my future job was to be, and neither my marriage. He suggested some gems to me. My mother agreed to him. As my father was much against to these gems and stones, he didn't gave my mother any money for it aur upar se chillaya alag. Then, my mother saved 5000 rupees in next 1 month and ordered a locket which had all the 4 gems embedded into it. Finally, I had it in my neck. 


             Before this, someone suggested that green colour is suitable for me and hence, asked my parents to make me wear only green-shaded cloths. They literally did it. After one month, when I saw that my friends started calling me "parrot", I shouted and stopped wearing them. Likely, I did many things so that my misfortune may turn into fortune, but succeeded in none. And, so, I asked my gemologist to tell me something which would prove within a month that this gems are working. He claimed that I would gain lots of weight (as I was too thin then). And yes, after a month, I gained 7 kgs. And this is how, I started believing on gems. After some days, I found that almost everything which were blocked in my life, started flowing. Everything that made me cry, went away. Everything that demotivated me, started showing productivity. And I didn't rely wholly on gems and stones. I just took them as a motivating factor. Whenever I go to do something, I see my gems and I feel confident about it. This doesn't mean that if you'll remove them from my fingers, I'll go into depression because of lack of confidence. But, for now, they give me confidence and I am not ashamed of wearing 7 of them in my fingers. 


             There are many factors in everyone's life that motivates them. I remember once Sourav Ganguly said "I have asked several times to Ishant Sharma to stop growing his hair but he says that if he will cut them, he'll stop getting wickets". That was funny. But, that gives Ishant Sharma a confidence to take wickets. Even if he won't get any, he'll not blame his hairs, he'll just take it as not-his-day. Amitabh Bachchan feels that his white-french-beard gives him good fate and fortune, hence, with that beard, he has confidence that whenever he'll stand on stage, he'll give his 100%. Sachin Tendulkar has some superstition that whenever he wears left pad before right pad, he scores better. So, this is not something weird or stupid. It is the way through which a performer finds a way of comfort for him. Having something close to them, motivates them. Some people even have this with some other person. There was a lady in Delhi who always came and met my cousin before going for any work as she thought that whenever she sees her face, her work goes finer and smoother. 


             So, my base for this post is just to make you acquainted with the facts that its confidence that matters and not the gems, stones, lucky shoes, God's idol in pocket, lucky oil they apply on their hair or any other crazy thing for which you tease them those who believe in it. Every person has some thing or factor through which they get confidence. Some even leave trusting a God and start following some other just because they have a confidence that this one is supporting me. There are many who even convert the religion in that belief. So, its not something which you should call weird or stupid, rather you should find what gives confidence to you.


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 ABHILASH RUHELA - VEERU

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V. Khawani said...

interesting !

Anonymous said...

CONFIDENCE matters....
Good one Abhi...

Keep ON..
Raja...

Hariharan Valady said...

I am confused. All over the post you talk about the superstitions of various celebrities, yet you conclude that what matters is confidence!
I like the comparison to Vijay Mallya for your parents concern.

Anamika said...

well i liked d concept u've chosen n offcourse d start n d instances mentioned in all d para wer an interesting read..i could relate to d thought but the last para jumbled...yes for the first time i didn't found dat u've done justice to d conclusion of d post..

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Thanks Khawani sir.

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Yes Raja. It matters. For that, if one has to be superstitious, its not wrong.

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Valady sir, please read it once again. I think u have misunderstood it.

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Anamika, I can understand. u r d 2nd person saying that.. Please read it once again. I have re-edited it. Actually I wrote it in classroom where everyone was disturbing me. But now I have edited. Plz do tell me now.

Anamika said...

Yes should nt tease d one who believes in it..nw its fine...surely editing is making a difference n u have pt der..well abt superstitions n beliefs i personally think its not at all wierd n stupid...yes wen it comes to belief for me its actually a huge topic to be explored n talked on...

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Yaa... Editing was required. I forgot it. But many comments after the blog made me realize my mistake.

Anamika said...

its fine..it happens..its tough to manage 4-5 things together...college,blog,twitter,kahaani n offcourse project...

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

:-) This is why I love u. :-) Thanks for understanding.

Anamika said...

hadh hai...aapka kuch nai ho sakta...matlab koi kitna bhi serious ho..aapka sense of humour n fir wo smiley sath me...add on...

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Yaar, Blog mein toh main waise bhi jyada sense of humour apna add nahi krta toh tumhe kaise pata k mera sense of humour atcha hai?

Anamika said...

blog par jitna bhi karte hai kafi hai...har sarcasm n punch line ya fir kisiko taunt karna ho ya koi feeling jo ki real me hai nai par fir bhi express karni ho toh ur best weapon is ":-)"..

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Ufff. Hahaha. Ye baat toh sahi kaha tumne. :-) Main aisa hi karta hun. Mujhe ye smiley use karne ki itni galat aadat ho gayi hai ki jahaan sad waala aana chahiye wahaan bhi yahii use kar deta hun.

Anamika said...

Batein karne me toh aapse koi jeet bhi nai sakta...par ab jo hai so hai...jaise hai theek hai..chalo bye den..

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Aisa kuch nahi hai. :-)

Anamika said...

":-)"

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