Wednesday, 26 September 2012 | By: AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

A FUCKing Friendship and YOU!!!

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             Every time I talk something that's too hard to digest, people send lots of questions to me after I get the work published. Today, once again I have a Curtain Raiser to the relationship that we, the youth boast of as much as we can-"FRIENDSHIP". Whether someone really has a friend or not, but he/she will always be available to paste numerous Quotes on Friendship on their Social network profiles. Ask me, I get irritated with these Friendship quotes, boasts, over-hype etc. Why does one need to talk on this Relationship if you are so sure about your friends? Why do you need to tag them in some pictures and let them realize that you are a Friend? If not that, at least to make him consider you in his/her friend list. Last time, when I wrote a blog post- Dost Toh Aate Jaate Rehte Hain, people found it indigestible initially but I got many views after the 2nd read by them. All said that somewhere I am true. For career, for personal progress, for selfishness, one has to leave a friend or the whole friend circle and move to the city/country where one gets life mooted to the next level of greatness. 

              Today, I want to ask- Who the real friend is? And how much duration does it take for a person to achieve tag of being our friend? I have also written in my blog post about how duration has nothing to do with the quality of Friendship. You can be better friend with a 3 months old person than a childhood companion. Undoubtedly! Today my point is, a person who always call you for chit-chatting, always dial your number, always wants you to be with him in any celebration should be categorized as a FRIEND? Or is it necessary to call him a FRIEND? In front of him, fine. But in his absence? I don't think that the person is really a FRIEND. According to me, if a person has contributed in your progress, establishment and motivation, the person happens to be your Certified Friend. Yes, I will give the certificate, don't worry. :-) 

               There's a difference. Suppose I have two classmates- F(Fuck) and Y(You). F never goes to the town's best Bhel-puri's corner without you. He says that it gives him pleasure to have the eatables only when you sit besides him and hear all the emotional crap that he needs to share with you. He finds you the most deserving person with whom he can share all that his heart has. He loves talking to you for umpteenth number of hours every day. Secondly, Y is that person who does not like spending time with you. What he believes in is totally different from F's concept. He will never call you. He will never share a single secret with you. He will even not hang-out with you. But whenever you'll make a call, or even if he comes to know that you need a help which can be solved by him, he helps you by putting all his efforts. Not because he considers you as a friend but because he is capable of helping anyone with that problem. He is such a person that he'll keep on helping you every time you'll fall into the pit of troubles but still, he will avoid calling you in his birthday party. Analyze the situation and answer yourself, if from the two, you'll have to name just one person as your friend, who will you chose? I assure that after 5-10 minutes of deep thinking, you'll chose Y(You) and not F(Fuck). 

             The reason behind it is simple. At last, somewhere on the core, or in conscious mind or in sub-conscious or in the crust of it, you remain concerned about your LIFE. Everyone wants to achieve everything without any hurdle. No one loves to get a subject drop in any semester, a jobless situation, a failed marriage, spoiled children or any loophole in life. And the person who helps you in pushing away from any of these hurdles to which you were very prone, captures the most respectable part of your heart. And thus in the above example, Y kept on doing it. While if you'll consider F's role in your life, he is just using you. He is using you for his benefit. Because he has no one else who can hear to his life's shit, and because he can't stay quiet, he needs someone to vomit everything out. He got you and thus he keeps on hanging out with you, spending money on you, eating bhel-puri only with you etc. He just can't afford to lose that one person who is ready to eat his shit on daily basis. But, as your concern is your life, you'll find later that he has wasted so many hours from your regimens which could have been utilized in the development. If you'll ask him for some serious help, he'll say it very sweetly,"Yaar tu jaanta hai meri kuch aukaat hai nahi is field mein karne ki". He is true. He seriously can't help you out. But he could have said,"I'll try. I'll talk to a friend". 

             So, now it's upon you to think- to waste time with those friends who need you for their entertainment, their time pass, their leisure, their selfishness or with that person who needs nothing from you, his only concern is that anybody around him does not fail or remain behind of others. He do not want to waste his life with you but he would sell his kidney and liver to eliminate the pain of your life. But still he won't spend a single second with you by talking about his hearty elements. He will make it sure that whenever he'll meet you, he'll ask you about how are you doing. If you'll retaliate with some doubts, he'll clear it and get engaged in progressing his life. Believe me- this boy deserves to be your friend. He needs to be called a FRIEND. Those friends who remember you for hang-outs and hearing their speech right from heart are just because they need someone around them. Y may not call you on your birth days but he will make it sure that every birth day of your's go smilingly while the F(Fuck) will make it sure that he gets a treat from you, in return he gives an expensive gift to you just for ensuring that you remain with him for a year more. :-)

            Think- A Formal Friend- YOU is the best. And don't give a FUCK about others!!! Bwahahaha!!!

 Thanks.

 ABHILASH RUHELA - VEERU

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Anonymous said...

At last someone realized only calling for movies & parties is not friendship, and i'm really happy after reading this post bcoz that b'day wishing & partying thing.. I never do that :p But i help everyone. So it is somewhat related to me.. I mean 'YOU' ;) - Apurv Verma [ @A_Humorist ]

Anonymous said...

Nice post. When I read the title, I was under an impression that it has something to do fucking n all. "Dirty mind".

Excellent article brotha... My father always says make just a small set of friends but those friends should be your "Real" friends not the fake ones who are there for personal gains".

Anyways, the concept of "Fuck" and "You" type of friends has been wonderfully presented by you. The "Fuck" friends don't just use us emotionally but also use in various other forms, and since most of the people consider them their real friends, so they spoil a hell lot of time on these fake friends.

To be frank, I have 6 friends of "You" category and these guys are the most special people after my family. The best part of such friends is that they are not selfish. The other day I was shouting at my best "You" friend for not calling me and being busy in his own life. This fella simply said "i don't expct ki tu evn mujhe yad rakhe....I just want ki apna khyal rakhe n taraki kare. par tujhe kuch bhi prob hoga toh main teri help karunga. ur my frnd man & will always be the same" .....
My advice to people " Have two sets of friends " Friends from your heart and friends from brain" .. In 21st century, it's a brutal fact that we have to be friends with even our enemies. So, there's grave need for having brainy friends for whom you've no emotional attachment whatsoever. And the same time, you should also have a small set of friends from core of your heart who are selfless and ready to help you out on your one call. Selfless friendship or friendship with no expectations is actually true friendship.

Always remember, a "Fuck" type of friend will always remember that he helped you during the time of crisis but a "you" type of friend won't care remembering these petty things because for him main concern is to see you sound and happy. Stop looking for fake relationships and friendships because these may never give eternal happiness. Made such a long comment only because I happen to have similar thoughts. Cheers :)

PeErLeSs2aCmE

pranay shree said...

and wat if a boy calls him / her for hangout partying n all but at the same time he also helps him/ her without caring about him self......so wat u gonna call it fuck or you or the mixture of it ......

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

Thanks Apurva....

And Peerless acme, bhai salute for such a long comment.. no words.. :-)

Pranay, yes u can call mixture, bro.. :-)

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