Wednesday, 16 August 2017 | By: AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

1600* BLOGS in 2939 Days with Lakhs of You!!!

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Today is my 2939th Day of Blogging and I am writing my 1600th Blog Post. If I have ever been able to do something with quite dedication and regularity in life, there’s nothing above Blogging. The 9th year of Blogging is on and I feel quite unbelievable thinking that I have written around 1.5 million words i.e. like writing more than 20 novels. I never wished to become a writer but I wanted to speak about things and share anything I know or feel with people around me. Unfortunately, when I came to Mumbai, I found myself moving towards loneliness and hence, never found any friends or people around me to tell everything that came into my mind. But the mess could not have been kept within me for long. I was already overcoming from a psychic attack and didn’t want to get back to that. Haha! So, somehow, I got to learn about Blogging and I started with it without thinking where it would lead me to.

After living in influence of this for more than 70,000 hours of my life, I can say that it has become an identity for me. There are more people who know my blog than me. It says enough about the impact this has made upon my life. Every night, when I come home after office, or earlier from college, I have so much in my mind that I cannot sleep without writing something or even reading. When I feel like writing, I just blog about anything personal while when I feel like reading, I read something and post a review of it. I do not endorse myself as a Book Reviewer as it is a very big shoe to fit myself in. I just want reading to become a regular habit for people as it gives you the peace and serenity that you wish to conquer by going at far-away places. When you read something, you are in a different world all-together. It happens so many times that I read a book in train and people around me in Local knows the station I get down at and they poke me to come out of my reader’s paradise and move my ass to go to the most unwelcoming place ever- Office. Haha!

It has taken me almost one year to achieve another century but I do not regret. I was in a totally different zone since a year. I got introduced to the spiritual world after reading few books on it and then Youtube accomplished whatever was left for me to know about it. Since then I have either done spiritual practices without anyone’s notice, heard spiritual awakening music and songs, watched spiritual enlightenment videos, met few spiritual people and learnt how they got in spirituality etc. I must tell that the last one year has been the most confused year for me. For once, I was committed with something and then I totally lost it. For once, I felt that my Friendship has become stronger than ever and all of a sudden, I am almost friendless. For once, I got a position and I rejected it and then now, I am working for the same designation. For once, I was earning a meager amount and now, I am earning almost double of it. Life has changed altogether.

The spiritual practices have made me realize that the happiness can only be found within me. Expecting anything from anyone is like asking nature to act according to you. It is like asking sun to rise in night and asking moon to beautify the sky in noon. I now understood that both- sun and moon is within us and it is upon our will to feel whatever we wish to feel at any point of time throughout the day. My life has become the purpose to find the God within me and reach the zenith of being a Yogi and identify the ecstasy and the feeling of real bliss as soon as possible. There are many more tough decisions that I will have to take to get closer to who I am. The feeling of something being absent in life never goes away and that’s the reason why people love sad songs. I love ghazals because it is about what we have finally understood about life. The poverty of mind and soul has to be enriched with the help of silence and loneliness.

Being spiritual does not mean that material world does not matter anything to me. Being spiritual in this fast-paced world makes us the survivor otherwise the nature and world will always control our emotions. They will have the guts to make us angry, frustrated, nervous, sad, egoistic etc. Why to give control of my life to anyone else when I can’t afford it anymore? There is so much that I want to do in my Professional and Blogging career which is a part of materialistic world but the spirituality is showing me the way how to cross the hurdles with smile, silence, peace and joy. We have celebrated our Independence Day just yesterday and the best thing our country has given to the world is the concept of Yoga, meditation and mathematics. If we do not experience the same being an Indian, what’s the use of getting birth in this divine place of Godliness?

On the occasion of my 1600th Blog Post, I just want to ask all of you to buy out some time from your so-called busy life and be with yourself. Initially, you will feel depressed and lonely but once you start entering the world of cosmos within you, you will realize the unlimited energies you carry within you. You will then be able to guide your mind as per your will and not let yourself go as per your mind’s commands. Become the winner of your life rather than losing against external factors which has nothing to do with your inner feelings and mood. Stop blaming others and try to become the reason of everything good and bad that happens with you.

Talking about my blog, I would say that the frequency is getting slower years by years because the time of reaching home is getting extended gradually which does not allow me to stay awake all night like my college days and keep on blogging. Now, I have to manage many things understanding that job is priority. Being as much spiritual as possible is a totally different concept, but if you have to be part of this materialistic world, money matters and hence first priority has to be given to it irrespective of whatever passion and interest we hold. Only after the basics are secured can we move in directions that really make us feel blessed and powerful within ourselves. I promise all my readers that the Blog is to stay here forever irrespective of my mortality. Thanks for staying in touch for all these years and I hope your support will keep making this platform shine always. I am in awe of every reader’s selflessness towards me. Om Sai Ram!!!

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Review: Toilet- Ek Prem Katha: Serves the Purpose! ***½

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There used to be a time whenever a new poster of Akshay Kumar’s movie got released, people would say that another mindless movie has come to ruin our time. There was an era when Akshay did back to back movies and people were mad about it as no other actor did the way he knew the art of it. Then he started blending comedy in his action movies and after a point of time, he almost replaced Govinda in film industry and never let anyone miss him. His comedy movies are enough on the list which are actually watchable and has repeat value. And then he started making comedy movies which needed no brain to watch which started frustrating his fans. And recently, he has learnt how to blend comedy with a social-message driven movie which can actually bring a small change in society through his light films. In the same genre comes his latest movie, “Toilet- Ek Prem Katha” which is doing very well at Box Office.

TEPK is about the problem of toilets in India about which even the national campaign is going on since BJP government has come into power. There are almost 52% of Indians who do not have toilet in their home because of which they either go out of their home to defecate in public or queue in at some public toilet which starts stinking after a point of time due to regular usage and no break time to clean it. The film talks about a man in his late years getting married to a well-educated girl who comes to know on her 1st morning of marriage that the house has no toilets. She is unable to accept the fact and leaves her husband asking him to make a toilet at his home to bring her back. The movie is about how this man then fights against his village, family and nation to get a toilet built in his house premises.

The first half is entertaining as it does not get to the serious purpose and only discusses about the characters and how the lead characters fall in love with each other. There are many laughing moments there. In the 2nd half, the movie gets a little serious and also stretchy, I must say. I believe that the 2nd half could have been cut short by 15-20 minutes easily. But the rebel shown by the character of Akshay Kumar looks realistic on screen and he does everything that you expect from the character to do. Though the movie looks agenda-driven as said by many BJP haters but the cause is nicely portrayed in the movie and will surely raise awareness in the villages that does not believe in maintaining toilets.

Talking about the performances, Akshay Kumar seems to have come out from his great performance in Jolly LLB 2 and delivers another potential character here. He manages to make you smile and cry at his well throughout the movie. He stands true on the expectations. Bhumi Pednekar has played her part immensely well and tells about the multi-facet character she can play in movies. Divyendu Sharma has does a great job as a supporting actor and makes you giggle with his one-liner dialogues. Rest, all the supporting casts are okay. The songs are in sync with the movie. The dialogues are powerful. The movie also has repeat value which makes it one of the best movies of the year. I give this movie 3.5 star out of 5.

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Review: Mubarakan: An entertaining comedy movie! ***

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It has been a long time since even an okay comedy movie has released and hence, there were a lot of expectations from Anees Bazmee’s “Mubarakan” as it also boasted of its multi-cast and high budget. Though I have lost faith in Bollywood’s comedy genre since a long time, but fortunately, Mubarakan didn’t add up to my list of To-be-avoided comedy movies of Bollywood. Mubarakan is an entertaining watch with its own bloopers between the characters and confusion created due to the lies spoken to avoid marriages by the double role of Arjun Kapoor.

The movie is very well paced with no boring scene for a long time. I liked how even the intense part is added in this movie to make the story stronger and not just a script converted into a visual format to just spread the one-liner jokes written by the writers. The way both the brothers get trapped in parent’s request of marriage and how they start telling lies to avoid getting married to a person they don’t love creates many scenes where the goof-ups take place and laughter moment gets created. Even the dialogues are wonderful in many scene which makes you laugh at the circumstances and what just happened in the previous scene itself.

The performance by Arjun Kapoor is great. I liked his acting for the first time since I am watching his movies. Unfortunately, he is the actor in the current slot whom I dislike the most but still he managed to impress me in this movie. Anil Kapoor, as usual, is loud and funny. Ileana D’Cruz is okay in her performance. She manages to give the expressions an actress is expected to give in a comedy movie. Athiya Shetty and Neha Sharma do not have much to do in the movie. Rest, all the supporting star-cast has also managed to play their part nicely to make the movie look good on-screen. The dialogues are laughable for most of the times. The screenplay is easy for the family audience to understand the movie. The songs are catchy. The whole Punjabi feel given in the movie makes you feel celebratory. I give this movie 3 star out of 5.

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Review: Lipstick under my Burkha: A very well-made movie! ***½

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When I heard about the movie “Lipstick under my Burkha”, I had assumed it to be a movie preachy enough to bore me to death. Also, when I saw it promo, I over-assumed it to be enough boring to make me watch some documentary on the same topic than this movie. But after watching it last evening, I must say it is a very beautifully made movie which has managed somehow to get it released in theater in spite of so much of arguments it had with Censor board. The movie talks about how the desires of women are kept hidden and limited because of the society. For everything a woman wishes to do, she either has to seek permission from a man or be scared of the judgments from the society.

The four characters portrayed in the movie are based in Bhopal and speaks of each one of them going through different problems. The character of Konkana Sen Sharma is about just being treated as a sexual object by her husband who warms his bed every day irrespective of her approval or not. She does job of saleswoman without telling her husband about it. The character of Ahana is about a girl who uses her charm and sexuality to treat boys as per her will. Ratna Pathak’s character is about how even old women fantasizes about being in sexual relationship with young boys but keeping in mind about society they try to find alternatives. The character of Plabita talks about how this girl in an orthodox Muslim family dreams of following fashion style like an International star but have to wear Burkha and go out daily.

The problems of each character are so intense and realistic that you can relate with it. Though we have not come in direct association with any of the discussed issues of the women but still we know that such desires of women exist. The best part about the movie is that they have not tried being too feminist by showing women as rebellious or disrespectful. They have kept the behavior and reactions realistic and genuine. The anti-climax and climax are just wonderfully treated and the last scene is so serene that I don’t think I can ever take it away from my mind. Lipstick Under My Burkha is one such experiential movie that I endorse it and wish that such movies are regularly made with messages and still not being preachy even in one dialogue itself. Specially mentioning- I liked the way Ratna Pathak reads the erotic book in the background when the central characters go through tough moments. I give this movie 3.5 star out of 5.

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Tuesday, 15 August 2017 | By: AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

Review: Munna Michael: The weakest dance-based movie! *

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When I watched “Heropanti” and saw Tiger Shroff for the first time on the screen, I was very impressed. Though his face is not what is expected of a Bollywood lead actor, his voice, his dialogue delivery and his dancing moves are enough to sustain him in the industry. I watched Munna Michael recently which is directed by Shabbir Khan who also debuted with Heropanti. The film stars Tiger and for a surprise, Nawazuddin Siddiqui. The film is expected to be comic considering Tiger is teaching Nawazuddin how to dance. The only time when the movie is funny is when Nawaz speaks few dialogues in his trademark style and accent. Otherwise it is all about running away from the script.

Whenever Tiger Shroff is cast in a movie, the directors has the same attitude of showing something for 15-20 minutes and then show a song with a wonderful dance sequence with Tiger showing his moves and abs and so on. The same has been the approach in Munna Michael too. The movie is about how Ronit Roy who plays a chorus dancer is exited from a movie’s shoot because his dancing style has become old. This makes him believe that dancing is not good for choosing it as a career. He imposes the same rule on the child whom he picks up from road and adopts to not to follow dancing as passion but obviously, the child grows into Tiger Shroff and knows nothing better than dancing. Later on, he gets in contact with Nawazuddin Siddique who is a hooligan because of an incident and gets offered to teach him dance. Later on, both the actors fall in love with the same girl, played by Nidhhi Agerwal, a debutante.

The film is very obvious and you know even the climax from the interval time itself. Talking about the performances, leaving Tiger Shroff and the debutante, Nidhhi Agerwal, everyone seems to be sleep-walking throughout the movie with disinterest obvious from their body language. Not one scene creates an impact upon you as an audience. Even the web series on Youtube has 100x times more impact upon the viewer. The only scenes that create some excitement is when Nawaz gets to know that Tiger has found his love interest yet not revealed it to him.

Talking about the performances, Tiger Shroff has done exactly the same what he has done in all his previous movies. Nidhhi Agerwal is quite similar to Kriti Sanon in terms of acting but she is extremely beautiful and fresh to be a part of this new Bollywood brigade. She has surely left her footprints behind. Nawazuddin Siddique is given a role which is far lesser than the caliber he has which makes him look very weird doing the stuffs which he has been made to. But still, only the dialogues given to him makes you laugh at few points. He is a savior for every such movie. The songs are forgettable. The locations and cinematography are also okay-ish. Overall, a movie that should be missed for your own good. Haha! I give it 1 star out of 5.

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Review: Raabta: Nothing new to showcase! **½

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I remember reading an article which announced the movie “Raabta” with Sushant Singh Rajput and Kriti Sanon as lead actors. I was pretty excited for the movie as Kriti is one of the new actresses whom I like for their freshness and also, because the movie was said to be a different love-story. Later on, when the promos came out and people started talking about its similarity with a South blockbuster movie, it arose my excitement again as I knew that it is not going to be similar to it. Now, I wanted to know how different and unique the movie is.

After watching it now, I can say that Raabta is an ambitious movie for its director, Dinesh Vijan, but it has nothing new to give to the Hindi movies’ lovers. There are a few category of audience which likes the same genre of movie irrespective of multiple times the same story is shown in different movies. For them, Raabta is going to be a great movie but in terms of uniqueness, the movie is just trying to be different but does not end up creating something worth exploratory and clap worthy.

The first half is same like Befikre or many movies we have seen featuring Saif Ali Khan, Preity Zinta etc. - the couples falling for each other in a foreign land with great locations and roads in background. It makes the movie look rich but there’s nothing new in the plot. For a person who likes watching modern love stories, the first half is bang-on. Even I liked it to some extent. Talking about the entry of Jim Sarabh, the movie starts looking fake as Saira’s love towards him irrespective of her intense love affair with Shiv is hard to digest.

The second half is more about the past-birth of all the three characters and what happened then is shown descriptively and story returns back in the present day after which it is only about run and chase. The climax is also sort of predictable. Talking about the performances, Kriti Sanon does her part of charming girlfriend incredibly in the movie. Sushant Singh Rajput is great as modern lover but does not leave any impact with the past-birth portion of being a warrior. Jim Sarabh is just okay in his part. His dialogue delivery doesn’t impress you enough which the director is trying to enforce as his X-factor in the movie. The dialogues are fine. The music is very good. Overall, the movie is okay for one-time watch but it has nothing new to deliver. I give it 2.5 stars out of 5.

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Friday, 11 August 2017 | By: AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

How it feels to know that we can never be together with someone forever....

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In my childhood whenever I used to go out to play, I used to be very happy, delighted yet emotional. I was often not sent in evening to play with my friends because my parents believed that I never return back home on time. They say that I even used to play with puppies when I found no human being around me. Though I don’t believe them but I still do not doubt my weirdness. When I used to play Cricket with my friends, as I have mentioned above, I liked the whole setting of amazing breeze in the evening, my best friends fielding besides me and having fun and dig at someone, our crushes walking on the road just besides the ground etc. But along with this, a thought always ran through my mind that very soon it will be 8 PM and I won’t have this amazing moment anymore with me. That thought didn’t let me enjoy the togetherness of that evening with my friends because I didn’t even have the confirmation if I would be coming tomorrow again to play as my parents stopped me for studying at home only.

It was childhood and I believed that I must be doing something wrong to not have confirmation about something to be mine forever irrespective of knowing how much I believed in it. Now, when I am grown up, and I see how the situations and circumstances of life makes us helpless to see our favorite thing, moment or person go away from us in front of our eyes yet we are unable to do anything about it. We can only see it disappearing and weep for it. I have found many people around me who didn’t like the latest SRK starrer Jab Harry met Sejal. But I connected very well with the movie because I have been in such relationship(s) where I knew that I won’t be able to maintain this forever and it will end up anytime sooner but still, I loved that relationship more than anything in life.

It is one of the most difficult situations we can face in life when we like someone, we are with them and still not happy because we know that this is not going to last longer and this person will move on irrespective of his/her own liking towards me. There can be nothing more painful than this. What can be more traumatic and psychic than missing someone even when they are present with us and we are having one of the best moments of our life? There are also moments when you consider someone as your best friend but the person does not consider you that important in his/her life. And when you see them planning for something special with someone else and not you, that moment irrespective of knowing that we are with them, we know that we will not be anymore as the friend is inclined towards someone else more devotedly.

On a lighter note, someone who had a great hang-out sessions with his friend circles immediately gets engaged, he knows that these moments that I am enjoying with my friends are one of the best events of my life but still there is a loneliness in his heart as he knows that it is about to end soon. Similarly, brothers feel it with their sisters knowing that though both of them love and care for each other and can’t spend time without each other, they cannot rely on it for life because sister will get married and move on to another family. These are the difficult times knowing that the relationship and moment is here with us for which we have always desired and quested yet it will get over soon and not going to stay with us forever. 

Since childhood, we need something only for us and believe that no one will take it away from us. But in adulthood, believing the same causes so much of realizations and pain that we start hating our destiny and life. It is in these moments that we have to keep our heart strong and understand the realities of life that there are only few things that are meant for us while there are many things which are just temporary- Either our best times or our best relationships or even our best feeling about something. When Life is itself temporary, how can we, a human being, expect permanence of something? Let’s face the truth of life and start living stronger.

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Wednesday, 9 August 2017 | By: AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

STOP Conveying EMOTIONS Through TECHNOLOGY!!!

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I remember my childhood when I met my friends every day in school bus. We became friends with each other in it. We fought many times in the school bus and playground. We patched up again there itself. We complained about what we didn’t like about them in front of their face. Whenever two people fell in love with each other and proposed about it, it happened face to face with no intervention of anyone. Even when they fought because of some issues, they fought by meeting with each other. Even when someone wanted to convey something to a person and didn’t have courage to do so, they passed the message through a common friend. Whenever we decided to meet somewhere, we decided the whole plan a day before and then met at the decided location at the exact time. Everything was so perfect when it came to displaying our emotions or conveying something. It was so simple, straight and personal.

With the advent of technology, people have stopped communicating the most important thing with their dear ones by meeting personally or even on call. Earlier, it started happening through mails, then online chatting applications, then SMSes and now it’s all about Whatsapp. Even the marriage is being proposed on Whatsapp. Until and unless you are not conveying your deepest emotions or problems with someone by seeing into their eyes and reading their facial expressions, you are never going to receive the same response that you have expected from your social life. Even if someone is trying to convey something to you very touchy, ask him/her to meet you the very next day or whatever is possible at the earliest, and then tell the whole thing.

Every time, I am talking with someone through a Mobile device or Laptop, I do not feel as if I am talking with the same person I know. I feel every person is the same whenever I am communicating through the device. I feel as if I am talking with the device rather than with the person. With so much of over-consumption of technology, now people are not even conveying their message to the respective person by directly instantly messaging to them but slying them through Quotes or Status Updates on Facebook, Instagram or Whatsapp Statuses. If that is how you believe that the person on the other side is going to understand your feelings, best of luck to you.

There are so many people whom we want to convey our message through text only, why don’t you prefer writing a hand-written note to them? I remember the letters I have written to my cousin sisters earlier when I wanted to convey how important she is to me and she did the same in return. Those letters are such a personal touch that no one can take away that emotion from me. Whereas I must have received many great messages from my friends on Whatsapp and Facebook telling me how great a friend I am but it all seemed to be a copy-pasted thing. The friends who have said it to me personally are the ones with whom I never had any problems ever because the love was displayed in each other’s presence. I remember a letter that I had written for Mr. Amish Tripathi, the bestseller author, when I was to meet him for the first time. That one letter had so much of effect on him that he still remembers me even if he finds me in an event between crowds.

Do remember that there is nothing bigger than personal touch in relationship. These technologies are great only for formal communication. The informal communication has to be done by meeting or if you want something of yours to stay with them for life, do something handwritten. Do not make technology the medium to communicate your heart to someone. Don’t fear rejection. Facing rejection is what makes you fearless and bold and thus, improves your communication skills. Just to teach these skills, these MBA institutes charge 8 lacs an annum. Isn’t it? So next time try meeting with the person you want to say something, good or bad, but say face to face. These technologies are known for making people offline more than keeping them online. J

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5 Break-Free Truths by Vijaya & Amol (Book Review- 3*/5) !!!

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No one can separate a reader from reading non-fiction books in queue if he has picked up the first one from the genre. Something similar has happened with me. These days I am enjoying non-fiction books than any other books. I am just done reading “5 Break-Free Truths” which also comes with a tagline “Discover your potential and achieve extraordinary success”. The book is written by the duo- Vijaya Suvarna and Amol Muley and published by my favorite non-fiction publication house- Jaico. This 230 pages book tells us a lot about the preconceived notions in our mind that we have created about something. It tells how we have blocked our mind from thinking anything beyond the confinements that we have created around it. This book is an eye-opener for everyone who wishes to achieve something but keeps on blaming someone else for its incompletion.

The book is nicely divided into chapters and a similar format under each chapter which makes it easy for the reader to understand the basic problem that has been identified in the chapter and then reading further comes to know what exactly the Truth behind our version of distorted truth is. The way author asks us to analyze our problems by also giving multiple statements of similar section of problem is quite helpful to understand exactly what kind of problems can be solved by following the suggestions provided in the particular chapter. The examples given in the chapter are nice. The only problem is that some of them are so descriptive and long that it becomes boring after a point of time as we already know what problem the protagonist in that part of the story must be facing. Such chapters could have been discussed just in a page or two.

The 5 break free truth that are discussed are worthy enough to be written in a book format to let the people recognize the ultimate truth behind all the confinements they have created in their life for not achieving something. Yes, I believe that the book is not super-motivating but few tips provided in it will surely bring effect in the life of the reader as people will stop blaming and start working. The case-studies in the end is a nice ending to the book. Overall, the book is an okay effort in this genre and I give it 3 stars out of 5.


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Tuesday, 8 August 2017 | By: AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

Why make your EMOTIONS a Public Property?

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If there is something through which people identify you is the emotion they have towards you. We often believe that people define us the way they feel about us but if you will go into depth and start decoding everything from the result to origin, you will realize that it’s only what you have fed their mind through your emotions have turned into their emotions towards us. Confusing, isn’t it? A human being if lives 100 hours of stressful or upsetting moments, the 99 hours of them are about how someone else have reacted to his situation, feelings or circumstances. And when such amount of our stressful times are because of only one thing that bothers us, it is worthy enough to focus on what’s exactly wrong with it.

And after following meditation practices and things alike, I have understood that solution for all the problems are within us. It is only waiting for us to realize and find it. Finding it is the biggest challenge but once found, correcting is the easiest task if you are determined enough. There are times when we are extremely emotional and the only thing that comes in our mind at that point of period is to emote our self in front of everyone or someone. Because we are already in the terrible state of mind, we do not think about the repercussions it would have. We just want sympathy from someone for our problem. And when we see at least one person saying that we are genuinely in trouble and how much are we suffering, our heart gets the most satisfaction then. The question here is, why do we yearn for someone’s sympathy to feel better about us? It is only we who can satisfy the deepest core of our emotions and no one else.

Remember that the moment you decide to spread your inner emotion with people, the emotion does not belong to you anymore. It becomes a public affair. Now it is in hands of people to decide if you can free yourself from that emotion or not. Till the time the emotion was with you, you had full control of it. But when you decide to pass it on to someone else, you give the remote control to that person fully. Either you are happy, sad, frustrated, destroyed, heart-broken, delighted, ecstatic, joyful, angry, nervous, jealous etc, the moment you let the world know about it, you are no more in control to part yourself from that emotion all by yourself.

Hence, whenever you feel something within you strongly- either positive for your state of mind or negative, never let the world know if you believe that you need to move away from the emotion after a point of time. If the world knows you are sad, and if you want to be happy after a point of time, they will make sure that you are been reminded of your sorrow at the crucial point of time which takes you back to the starting point of safeguarding your heart and mind from negative thoughts. Similarly, if you tell the people about your happiness, in the moment of your sadness after losing the same reason of happiness, people will start reminding you of it. This will make you feel less better about it and more blank and empty about losing the reason of your happiness. Hence, next time you take a decision in letting the world know about your inner emotion, THINK, THINK and THINK and finally STOP from expressing your emotions to the world and giving the remote control to them.

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The Leader Who Had No Title by Robin Sharma (Book Review- 4.5*/5) !!!

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If there’s one author whose book I pick up whenever I need an answer for anything in my life, it’s Robin Sharma. The way he articulates his sentences and frames his paragraph makes a lot of chemical reaction to take place within your mind and body. The sudden changes that you start seeing in your attitude and thoughts after completing his books are remarkable. He is the epitome and zenith in the genre that he writes and a legend of course. He had changed my life at a point when I had already given up on it and was regularly thinking about committing suicide. He is my favorite author and now when I was actually little upset with few decisions of mine, I picked up another great book of his “The Leader Who Had No Title” which is written fictionally but speaks only volumes and no nonsense.

The great thing about the book is that it tells you how to improve personally and automatically find difference in your job, business, personal life and inner feelings. The book tells you that to become a leader at something, one should not wait until and unless one does not get a position, designation etc. to perform leadership. He gives the guidance through different chapters how one can be a leader even without a formal title or acceptance from the masses. Though the book is published couple of years ago, it is prominent still in the current business scenarios.

The book is wonderfully handled by fictionalizing it and showing the protagonist meeting four different personalities who teach him four different leadership fundamentals with five pointers each that changes his total approach in just a day time. The author has handled the story in such a way that you feel yourself as protagonist and concentrate on each and every sentence being spoken by the four personalities. The climax is also nicely handled which sums up the reason for which all the guidance suggested in the book should be followed from the present hour. Once again, Robin Sharma has been able to create magic and change people’s life through his book and this is definitely one of this best works. Talking about the drawbacks, I would say that there are many things that are repetitive from his previous 10 books or so. Also, his style of fictionalizing a book is almost similar every time which makes it little boring at times in between. Rest, this is one of the most recommended books read by me. I give it 4.5 stars out of 5.


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Monday, 7 August 2017 | By: AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

Is Friendship about being a Friend or expecting Friend to be a Friend?

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Like each other, even this year, almost everyone in my social websites’ network celebrated Friendship day by meeting their friends and planning a day-out while I, like every year, spent the day without a single friend alone at home.  I met with a friend but it was with a totally different purpose which had nothing to do with Friendship Day. These days are always said to be neglected because people believe that its about relationship which is dealt with every day and there is no specific day which can be allotted for the same. But I believe such days should be kept because it gives a reality check to you if you really value the relationship or it is just for name sake in your life. If the prominence of the relationship has gone down in your life, such days enlighten you towards it and makes your approach change and you finally take a step further to celebrate your relationship with that person and tell the world about the importance of it in your life.

I have mostly written against Friendship day on my portal for the sole reason that I feel friendship should be celebrated up to a level after which it should be kept aside to focus on ourselves and primary goals which will actually reflect the value of your life in future. I have seen my generation spending so much time with their friends that they have never sat alone to realize what they are, who they are, what their potential is, what do they actually wish to do in life etc. Such approach towards friendship is a total waste and your friend himself will leave you after seeing your desperation towards running away from your life and trying to associate each moment of yours with someone else without taking responsibility on your own shoulders.

I felt bad throughout the day thinking about how the three best friends I have didn’t even plan out something as it has always been me in recent weeks who have set up the plan otherwise everyone loves to stay busy in their lives. But by the end of the day I realized that friendship is not what you expect from someone. You can give as much as possible in friendship but expecting the same in return is like treating it as barter. When you love someone, it surely hurts and it’s good to suffer pain at times as it makes you a stronger person than yesterday with more patience of handling things. If I believe these three people are my best friends who have actually created a special place in my heart, I should always stand for them whenever they are in trouble which I mostly try to do. But expecting that these three or any of my friends would understand my unsaid emotions and treat me by asking for a meet-up or some surprises is utterly rubbish.

The failure in relationships is only because of believing that our emotions will be automatically read by a particular person and he will go all the way up and down to make sure that they turn as happy. No! The first rule to stay happy in life is to not be possessive about anyone. Let it be your friend who has even tried to give away his life to save yours or vice-versa. Remember that some situations make people do things for you. Do not take it as a compliment believing that the person will die for you so you own him/her more than anyone else. Leaving this person when he wants to shows how good a friend you are. And only try to be that in your life rather than expecting things from your friends and feeling ugly about Friendships after disappointments. So, a Happy Friendship Day to all of you and do make sure that you are a good friend always rather than running behind your friends’ life in making them believe that they are only yours and they should always remain around you. If that’s the case, then I will have to wish you a very Unhappy Friendship Day as I had spent the first half of my day feeling the same. Haha! That’s all on this special day.

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ABHILASH RUHELA!!! 

Review: Jab Harry Met Sejal: Same Story represented Differently! ***

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I have never liked Imtiaz Ali’s movies, frankly speaking. There is not a single movie of his that is in my favorite list. I was also very doubtful of watching Jab Harry Met Sejal after seeing its poster and release date because of my distrust towards director. But still I went for the movie as we have a rule in family that no matter what, we have to watch KHAN’s movies in theater only. Unbelievably, I think I am the only person in the whole country who found the movie good. I won’t say it was excellent or better than good but it was good. I am still unable to understand why people are so negative about it.

It is true that all the Imtiaz Ali’s movies are almost on the same plot only but this movie is made very well keeping the entertainment, family and commercial factors in mind. It is not the same typical movie how we have seen things happening in our cinema when a boy and girl meets but it treats the subject differently. The humor quotient in the first half is very well executed not making it silly and childish. In the second half, the way both the characters start falling for each other still believing that they are what they were before meeting each other is also nicely handled. Yes, I agree that screenplay breaks the flow of the movie every time but there are many scenes which connects so well that you will almost flow with the emotions of it.

The dialogues of the movie are fine which makes you laugh few times in the beginning and some intense dialogues surely make you serious. The background music is the winner in this movie. The songs are beautiful and I finally noticed many good songs while watching the movie which I didn’t like much through promos. The locations are terrific. Talking about the performances, Shahrukh Khan, I believe, has finally played the kind of character I was waiting for him to play. Anushka Sharma is bright as a Gujarati girl but I feel she could have done better at many parts in the movie. Rest, all the characters are okay. I found this movie a one-time watch of course though I have nothing much to keep from it with me for a long time. I give this movie 3 star out of 5.

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Thursday, 3 August 2017 | By: AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

My 2nd Job Anniversary!!!

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3rd August, 2015 was the first day of my professional life. I still remember the swollen face with which I attended my first day. As the last 7 months of college was all about being at home and creating an internship project, the sleeping and waking time screwed the whole body cycle which made it one of a hell task to wake up early in the morning on the first day of office. The nervousness made my face look even more non-committal. As soon as I entered the office, I was introduced to the project on which I had to work as a Software Tester. I, who always saw small projects in life, was stunned to see a project of that dimension where the linkages and flow was not ending only. It took me almost 2 days to understand just the basic flow of it. I had signed a bond of 2 Years which scared me like anything imagining myself working on such vast projects and handling it myself in case when the seniors would leave the organization. But all went well and I got confirmed after 6 months of Probation period.

And that changed the whole thing for me. I became confident and made sure that I would never say NO to anything that will come towards me in this organization for any tenure that I would be staying here. And I did exactly that. Today, I have completed 2 years of my professional life and looking back and at my present, I can say that whatever your organization is, however kind of Organizational Politics that takes place in your company, whatever kind of people you have around you as peers, you can achieve what you set as your goal and no one else can hide or overshadow your skills and talents if you are really a step ahead than what you were yesterday.

In the last two years, I have worked in my organization as Software Tester, also helped my MD with SEO for two months on a very small level, and then worked as an Application Support for 3 months due to some internal issues and finally now, I am working as a Business Analyst. This journey from being just a Software Tester to being a Business Analyst in an IT company in the last 2 years has taught me that one can move in any profile if one believes that he/she can. A little extra efforts than others in your department can showcase your capabilities to your peer and even to the management. Just after becoming an Analyst, I got an opportunity to attend client meeting on the 2nd day itself with my seniors which made me believe that when you desire to experience and learn something new, automatically the law of attraction works and you get to live the kind of Corporate Life you always wanted to. I am enough lucky, that’s the only thing I can say.

I recently got the first appraisal of my life and it was among the highest slot of the organization. Along with that, I got the promotion as mentioned above. What more can one expect in just the 2nd year of his career? I am overwhelmed with whatever is happening with me and my sole goal remains to grow personally irrespective of whatever my organization believes me to do. It is not always that our goal is same as organization but the thought process should be the same- in whatever you do, your package should justify your efforts. And if you do more than that, nothing can stop you from growing even if your goal does not align with that of organizations’. Actually, it must!

In the last 730 days of my tenure, I have taken only 14 days leave and not one of them is unplanned. I always made it sure that the team I am working with should be assured that no matter what; Abhilash is coming to the office on time, even if no one is turning out. This has helped in creating a strong bond with my team and this trust value that you imbibe gives a lot in return. I owe a lot of my professional successes to my organization that always believed in me and gave me roles and responsibilities that were a level up than my current position. When I was QA, they asked me to perform SEO and BA tasks. When I switched to BA profile, they asked me to do App. Support’s task. And now when I am officially moved to BA profile, I am given a new project altogether. And whatever failures I have faced and I would be facing, I owe that to my lack of commitment or capabilities. That’s all I have to say on completing 2 years of my professional life. Thanks to everyone who supported me in this tenure. Just stay by, all I can ask today.

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ABHILASH RUHELA!!! 
Tuesday, 1 August 2017 | By: AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

The Art Of Mentoring by Ravishankar Gundlapalli (Book Review-3.75*/5) !!!

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Reading non-fiction book after reading fiction stories regularly makes you reach a different level of thinking and thought process itself. I have just finished reading the non-fictional attempt named “The Art Of Mentoring” written by the debutante, Ravishankar Gundlapalli. Generally, whenever we discuss about the self-help section of non-fiction books, there are always almost the same topics on which the author discusses throughout the book- how to be happy, how to be socially active, how to avoid stress etc. This book is totally different from all the self-help books I have read recently. It talks about how we can be a good mentor to people who are in quest to learn and also discusses about what are our responsibilities as a mentee.

The book begins with a long explanation by the author about why he wrote this book and how it would be helpful for the readers. This has taken a long time which makes sense as author wanted the reader to know the goal before starting to read this book. After that, author discusses about the myths of mentoring that people generally believe and sidelines it thinking that it’s not so important to spend his/her time in mentoring someone. And after this the real stuff begins where the author discusses about the points that a mentor should follow to be a good person to give guidance to people who are in actual need and can bring difference to the society. After discussing about the mentor, author focuses on the responsibilities of a mentee who needs a mentor to learn new things desperately and reach to another level of performance altogether.

The book is nicely written with diagrammatic representation in middle of the chapters which makes the experience of reading this book interesting. This book can be completed within one sitting of 1 to 1.5 hours itself. The points discussed are nicely briefed and described which makes it easy for the reader to remember and implement them later on. As Mentoring is not discussed much as a topic either in college books, this attempt is surely distinct and something which is essential as at any point of time in life, there are people who are looking forward to us for guidance while even we are looking out for someone who can lead us towards our goal and dreams. I give this book 3.75* out of 5. It is surely recommended for the people who want to be leaders and the people who are looking out for someone to lead them. Go for this book.


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ABHILASH RUHELA!!! 



8th Anniversary of Blogging!!!

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On 31st July, 2009, just exploring something on Orkut.com, I landed up on another service provided by Google and ended up writing my first ever Blog Post just out of curiosity to understand this new medium. Not even once did I have a clue that this journey would become such an integral part of my life and in some phases, my life itself. Now, it has become one of the attached parts of my life which can never be parted away from me. Though I would come here just for once in a year but this will always stay a part of my life where I will surely drop to unload all my burdens.

There have been times in my life when I do not blog for a long period of time due to some circumstances where I have to devote myself a lot or in some stressful period where I have nothing positive to share. I feel even more weak during such periods because of the disconnect with the writing part of my soul and the stagnancy of my blog posts makes me feel more depressed and sick. It is only when I return back to blogging do I feel energized, ecstatic, inspired and motivated. Just like recently when I was not blogging at all but the last month of July has been really special for me since I started blogging again like my previously-known routine where I slept only for 3-4 hours to make sure that I do not sleep without talking about what I have in my mind.

This Blog has been reason for many achievements and special privileges that has been granted to me in life. I never discuss my blogging with anyone by myself but there comes a time when a person knowing me drops on my blogging site and discusses this with me in detail. After that conversation, I find that person little more closer to me as after reading few of my posts the person starts feeling that he knows me far more better than anyone else around. I have gotten many good friends due to this. I have gotten many privileges in my college life because the faculties and classmates knew about my Blogging activities. Similarly, in my professional life too, this has been of a great advantage and got me change my department itself.

What more can a Blogger or Writer-by-heart ask? I am not a grammar nazi or someone who speaks world-class English but my thoughts and opinions are something that people connect with because of which this blog has been able to hold few readers since last 8 years. Never did I realize that I would continue blogging for 8 years with an average of 200 blog posts each year. Unbelievable! I have shared many personal events, thoughts, opinions, creative pieces, photographs etc. on this medium which has made this a very personal part of my life. Anyone who is a regular here will always find me closer to him/her and same goes from my side too. Whenever a reader of my work mails, messages or comments me, I feel as if I have met a long-lost friend whom I had been searching for a long period of time who knows about all my secrets and has a direct way to my heart.

I would like to thank each and every person who have ever tried to contribute to this medium through their help in making it popular and well-known. I have never invested to make this medium popular but whatever it has achieved till today is only because of all of you who have shared the articles with your friends on Whatsapp, Twitter and Facebook and made them know my blog and me. The 9th year of Blogging journey begin from today and I promise myself that whenever I will feel that life is trying to unfriend me, I will drop here to speak my mind and emote everything I have in my heart rather than getting isolated and more detached from my writing space. A very happy 8th Blogiversary to my Blog and all the readers attached with it.

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ABHILASH RUHELA!!!